Well, Sunday was... Just was.

I've gotten cremation vaults, and Sunday I took care of moving the cremains in, while Vik's mom was easy, he'd already spread about half her ashes, so splitting her between two spreader urns and the vault was easy, him not so much. Vik was a fairly large gentleman, and that means a lot of cremains, I'd thought that once unsealed there'd be enough room in the back to shift him around to fit in the vault, but nope, had to scoop a fair amount into a bowl in order to fit his bag in, then add the cremains back in and re-seal.

The white is his mom's cremains, and the blue is him and Panta, it felt like they should be buried together.

It seems with how much Panta meant to him, it was only right to bury them together.

Speaking of burial, that'll be Tues. I haven't told his family, I have a very, very small social battery, and doing this, I'm really not going to be up for being around people, I'm barely up to it on a good day, and that's not going to be a good day obviously. We're not doing a graveside service, this is just a basic burial, places them in the grave, and I'll likely help Arlen fill it in, I mean at his age he prolly shouldn't be digging graves, so I'm certainly going to offer to help fill it in, I've already offered to arrange for someone else to open, but he insisted on doing it himself. I won't chase his family away if'n they show up, and they have access to this blog, but I'm definitely not going to feel like being around people. Its kinda funny, he always said he was an introvert, and yet he was on a bowling team, active part of the pen club scene out here even helping with the convention, was at least part of events related to Ingress at one time even taking part in a big event here, active with WikiTree and other genealogy sites, and more, so much that I doubt I've contacted them all. Me? I'm a happy hermit, I'll just stay home, read and watch... well, more listen to TV, and that's it. I don't think he could really be counted as an introvert...

There might be a memorial in the future, a lot of people would certainly like it, but I've been leaving that up to his family, at least the organization, and I haven't heard anything on that front.

We'll also need to pick out a headstone, plan is to get a double headstone, but use it a bit non-standardly, with his mom's name top center, his name lower left, and a blank spot for me on the right for when my time comes. Well that, or put my name without a date now, but that seems a touch morbid to me.

We've also scheduled an appointment with a lawyer to get the probate matter settled, 18th we'll see about getting that rolling so it goes to court.

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